#MondayMotivation How to UNLearn

If I asked what you learnt recently, you would probably have a million responses.

What if I switched it up and asked what you UNlearnt recently?

There you may hesitate and look at me like I was mad.

I do believe though that life is about 

- Learning

- Unlearning, and 

- Relearning.

Let me explain.

The average person will learn something new everyday, either while on our daily commute, while watching or reading the news, or from something online.

I recently learnt that President Macron of France will be visiting Ghana, Burkina Faso and Ivory Coast while covering the news for Kwesefied. (I then wondered, 'what happened to Naija na?!')

French President, Emmanuel Macron

But i digress.

Learning is easy, especially if we open ourselves to it.

ReLearning is also easy. There are things we have learnt before that we either take for granted or do not use and so must relearn them. I for example, had to relearn how to move my arm after I fractured it and wore a cast for weeks. The first day the cast was taken off, the doctor and nurse said, "Move your arm" and I thought I was doing it but guess what? My arm was NOT moving.

I then had to undergo a series of physiotherapy sessions to RElearn how to move my arm.

That was not fun I can tell you.

What may be fun or not fun depending on our attitude to it is UNlearning.

Imagine you grow up thinking something and 'knowing it for sure', then growing up and finding out you were wrong!

There are people who still argue the earth is flat while most say it is round.

If you do not open yourself up to letting go of wrong or false information you have, you may find yourself stuck in the mud and not growing. Learning, Unlearning and Relearning are all essential aspects of growth.

Can you s.h.a.r.e one thing you recently Learnt, Unlearnt or Relearnt, with me?

#MondayMotivation Maybe what matters is what you say about yourself, not what they say about you.

I do not know why but this sentence, 'Just because they play the music does not mean you have to dance to it' keeps presenting itself to me.
Or maybe i do know why.

It is easy to get caught up sometimes in what has been said or will be said about you. If i do abc, they will say xyz, or, they say i am uvw... It is a lot of ' they said ' and 'they will say' which my friends, can be crippling for you.

It is possible that some of the things people say about us are, maybe slightly exaggerated but true all the same. They may be right that you are lazy or a quitter, not the funniest nor the most put together. It does not however make it all true, nor less deserving of success.

People may question you, laugh at you or brand you a failure but the truth is, until you yourself say these things, then you are not losing.

While taking advice and striving for perfection is a good thing, do not let what people say become true by giving it life yourself.

Once again remember, maybe what matters is not what people say about you, but what you say about yourself. What are you saying?

#MondayMotivation Are you really angry or just hungry?

Don't laugh. This is a real question. Next time you want to huff and puff and blow the roof down, ask yourself, "Am i really angry or am i hungry?". You can replace hunger with anything else. A lot of times when we think we are angry we are just hungry or tired or bored, and we mix that emotion up with something else.

It is always worth unraveling the source of your anger as it affects how you react to things moving forward. If for example, you know it is because you are hungry, problem solved- eat. If you are tired, shut down and take a break. If you are bored, find something interesting to do.
My point is, save your anger for times when you are really angry and there is something worth getting pissed off at. Otherwise, take a step back, breathe, and save that relationship you might have destroyed.

What do you think?

WCW: ADENIKE IS A STRONG WOMAN, DRAW FROM HER SOURCE

Hi everyone, hope your week is going pretty well? If yours has been drab, here’s a little something to spice it up. Today, we are crushing on the lovely Adenike Oyetunde who is a speaker, On-air- personality, and most interestingly a cancer survivor.

Hi Adenike,

 1) A lot of people see you as a survivor and constantly draw inspiration from you, how does that make you feel and what fuels your own inspiration?

I am learning to be in an unlooking mood. Let me tell you why. I honestly don't seek the praises of men and have heard how detrimental that can be. However, my primary purpose is to show others that living optimally is possible and very achievable. 

In that light, my inspiration is GOD firstly and a few people around me. People who want me to be more, who know I can do more and who push me to do more; Those that applaud my stepping out and launching into the deep. My inspiration is JESUS. Who in under a week had the same people who applauded Him, scream crucify Him'; and continued on that road to salvation.  My inspiration is my not so little sugar, Beulah and aunty Sumbo.

My inspiration is my friend Udy and Ogochukwu and Sola and Mayowa and Tombra and Ira and Michael and Kemi. They push me!!! 

2)      Are there any activities you do that people may not easily believe you can do?

Swimming and maybe driving.

3)      Where’s your best place to be?

In my own place (mind), with my homies and good food, best if we're God-ing (the practice of talking, reading, sharing all things God)

4)      You’re a radio personality; do you have any plans of getting into TV as well?

I sure will...

5)      What’s your biggest turn off with people?

Abbreviations when they type. The ehem' ehem people. Just make a sentence already!!!

6)      It's Wednesday, please tell us one woman you look up to?

Hmm...Wow. Kemi Adetiba has been under my radar for a very long time and I'm sure I'll know why again sooner.

My colleague-sister Omotunde Adebowale David, a.k.a Lolo 1. Wow.